The New Dating Game – Part 1
Hasn’t the way we date and relate to each other changed significantly over the last few decades? I’m convinced that the “dating” mechanism needs to be re-written to accommodate for the changing times and changing needs of relationships. Many people are now prepared to go to the far reaches of the earth in search of a compatible match…let’s accept that and come up with solutions.
I have experienced meeting new people through singles events, introductions by friends, while out and about, newspaper advertisements and on the Internet (on other forums, just through email connection and on RSVP – the biggest Internet dating site in Australia). 99% of these meetings have been a positive experience for me, but I have very strict guidelines that I adhere to that ensures I have sufficiently checked out the other persons character, compatibility and intentions. But, one of the most important aspects, is to get clear about what we are wanting to find in another person in the first place.
Let me give you MY STEPS. I don’t expect they will be right for everyone, yet they work for me.
- What Are You Looking For? Answer this question very carefully. It provides the foundation for what you will attract into your life. What are your intentions…are you looking for a friendship, a playmate a travel companion, a life partner, a penpal, a sexual partner or are you just seeking attention or ‘testing the waters’? If your answer is wishy-washy your results will be wishy-washy. This is the most basic step, yet the one that is the most ignored.
- Get clear about the qualities you would like to find in a partner. Use the method given in the article Three Steps To Knowing Who’s Right For You. This is such an important step. If you are waiting for divine intervention or relying on luck, karma or destiny, these steps will go a long way to ensure you will attract the person you really desire, not some unconscious need based on healing past hurts.
- When you meet someone who is a POTENTIAL match, commit to going on three dates. We are only looking for POTENTIAL at this time – not perfection…that takes time to determine. Take a look at So You’ve Been Asked Out On A Date.
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Continued in Part 2
